My girlfriend is not answering my phone calls

Your a stupid redneck is the problem.

Stupid maybe but a redneck come on my last name is Martinez.

Back in Clear Creek, the only one with a phone was the neighbor, and if everyone had to apologize to the girls we knew, there would have been a line up a half mile long outside of their house.

In honesty, if she gets that easily upset, your future with her doesn't look so bright.

I'm sorry to hear that Juan...she's just afraid you don't care about her... it seems like you do. I'd let her cool off before talking to her...maybe write her a letter if things get too heated/angry...

. Actually we have been together a little over 5 years and because of lack of love she received as a child she does have some trust issues and sometimes I forget that.

My icon as a caveman goes back to my college days. My frat nickname was Captain Caveman after the cartoon. Because at that time I used to wear my hair long and shaggy.

Juan...

All I can tell you is this: Friends come and go. But a good relationship between a man and a woman is worth more than a lifetime of so-called friends. In fact, it is priceless. You need to tell her you love her no matter who is around you because in the end, my brother, she will be all you have.

I see that now. thanks

I like what HG wrote, as well. In terms of your question at the end, Juan, I don't feel you were wrong, nor do I feel she is blowing things out of proportion. She had a very strong need, that you didn't know about, or at least you didn't know the intensity of the importance of that need. I don't like to generalize, but many women have a need for their boyfriends, fiancés, husbands, significant others to express in words, in particular the words "I love you", much more often than their partners either need that or are aware that the woman needs that. Many women don't express their needs to their partners and then when their partners do or don't do something that they needed and figured you already knew they needed it, they get very hurt and angry and the guys get "in trouble". Neither you nor your girlfriend are mind readers. We can't always be tuned into our partners and there are lots of needs both parties have that the other person doesn't know about unless his/her partner has told him.
This may be too wordy an answer for you, I don't know. What I do know is your girlfriend feels hurt and is not talking to you. What she most needs to hear is that you are sorry that her feelings got hurt. Tell her that, and tell her you love her. Since she's not returning your phone calls, say it first on her voice mail or write her a note saying those things and deliver it yourself, or go to where she lives and tell her those things. However you choose to do this, I think it will open the doorway for you.
After this has blown over, it might help to talk with her about your need for her to tell you any time she realizes she needs something and she feels you are not doing, giving or saying whatever that might be. Yeah, I know, a lot of people feel they shouldn't have to always talk about everything, but for a relationship to be really lasting and durable, good communication is key.

Ignore her for a while Juan...if that doesn't work..dump her !!

I've had girlfriends like that, and they aren't worth our time. She probably has some sort of chemical disorder, and unless you are a trained professional counselor, you have a lot of heartaches and headaches ahead of you.

In my experience with these types of girls, they lacked a father figure during their childhood and they look to their boyfriends/ husbands to fill that void. Quite frankly, these kinds of relationships just don't last.

Juan,

Refusing to talk to someone for 3 days who you profess to love is not a key ingredient for good communication all around and it's manipulative. She is trying to force you to do what she wants by punishing you by shutting you out if you don't.

3 days??? Refusing to speak to you is about control, not love. She sets up the expectations and whether they are reasonable or not, if you don't comply, you are punished. This is not healthy. Left unchecked, she'll continue to up the ante on her expectations and they'll just become more unreasonable as time goes on.

She "expected" you to tell her you loved her at that moment. You didn't and she was then hurt. The hurt she is/was feeling is of her own doing and the only participation you had in that hurt is that you didn't do what she wanted. Also her own problem.

Lisa...You said what I said from a woman's point of view, and you are spot on a usual.

Will you marry me ????

Right on Lisa. I agree with you.

With the surname Martinez, of course you can't be a redneck...you'd have to be a roja-neck. Sure, she's blowing in a little out of proportion. Chicks like to get a guy in a situation to embarrass them in front of their friends. "If you really loved me, you'd tell me anytime, anyplace." There should be a rule they're not allowed to do that. Enjoy your "vacation" and a little peace and quiet. Being together so long, you know she's not leaving...and making up is always the fun part of any arguement!

LOL- sure Timothy! But won't Sandy be upset? :D

Rob you surprise me, lumping all women (chicks) into one category. I hope you dont really feel that way.
Juan, sounds like a contol problem. I would be leary of any behavior that shows she wants to control you. 5 years is a long time for her to still be so insecure that you have to go by her rules, or she shuts you off and out.

Lisa...Sandy isn't talking to me now...I expect divorce papers any day now.

LOL Timothy, has it been 3 days?

It's been about a week now Lisa. She commented on one of my articles about a week ago, I've tried to call her and she doesn't answer.

It's over between Sandy and I ...will you marry me Lisa ???? ( hope this doesn't make Travis jealous )

LOL- did you refuse to tell her you loved her in an article here? I'll have to ponder on this. And since this is the 21st century, do you have a dowery?

Hey, where is Juan, anyway? He posted this and then didn't come back.

I think that Juan's article here was satire Lisa. I guess he's been reading too many of my satire articles!!! lol

LOL, usually satire is something that would be pretty obvious. :D:D

Just got back I took off to do a little gambling with some old friends. Sure enough there were two messages waiting for me on my voice mail when I got back. I think I will wait until Monday or Tuesday to call her back. What is good for the goose and all that and thanks for the advice I really appreciated it.

patience dont push

So, she ignores you and it upsets you and now, out of spite, you are going to do the same thing to her?

Geez, you two deserve each other!

Lisa....What Juan said works on you gals !! lol

Timothy- it would never work on me. I'd be history.

Like a wimp I caved in and called Elena back. I picked her up and took her to a club some friends were playing at and had them play her song for her. We made up and next time I will thing twice about being embarrassed about saying the L word.

thanks Kathleen

Sounds like a real winner. You should have stretched it for 4 or 5 days and enjoyed the solitude, then write a letter explaining that your tired of being an emotional tampon.