What Does Your Spouse or Significant Other Think of Your Gathering Habits?

I'm only on the computer when DH isn't home. I rarely use it when he is home because I'd feel guilty. If nothing is on TV that I like, I may spend a little time, but not much.

My husband loves the gift cards to the book stores. Like we need more books! LOL I have two bookcase overflowing with my books, and his are packed away in the basement! That's what he gets for collecting Star Wars books! LOL!!!

My husband doesn't care how much time I spend on the Internet or what I am doing on when I am on here. Of course, the same goes for me when he is online. (But of course, he is looking at Star Wars stuff!)

Jennifer, My wife doesn't seem to mind the time I spend on here. She likes watching the cop and lawyer shows. I can't seem to get interested in all the killing and gorey stuff. She doesn't even read what I write. So I don't tell her what to watch. lol. thanks for sharing.

Mine is a lot more supportive of my time on gather than he ever is re: playing on Neopets .... even though I don't earn anything for my Gather points, seeing as how I'm one o' them whining Outsiders .... he would rather see me writing than playing any day, and considers my time on Gather to have value .... he is a lot more convinced than I am that I will be published some day.

The only time I Gather is when I'm at work.....Like now. I don't have any children. Just my Husband and myself. I did vow to stop chatting 5 years ago and kept my word. I don't consider myself as had been breaking my word. I did tell my hubby that I was doing it for others to review and comment on any submitted articles and/or pictures by me. I actually discovered Gather by accident, during the November elections last year. As far as I'm concerned, as long as I don't abuse my privilleges, my husband doesn't have a problem. Gathering is the least of my bad habits.

My bf doesn't mind as long as I give him my undivided attention when he comes to visit, we live 20 miles apart and usually see each other on the weekends

Husband hasn't really complained yet.

My husband is on Gather. But, he seems to have lost some of the initial interest he once had.

My dh hasn't really got any idea what gather is. I guess I'll have to show it to him sometime. He's a programmer and is so sick of looking at a computer screen after all day at work he isn't often interested in our computer. Of course if I showed him gather I might have to share the computer......

Interesting?? Not sure about that one

Most of my family is on here, so they can't say crap.

not married here, and no kids. My parents think I am nuts, but my dad really liked the home depot gift card and is asking for another....

Mine is threatening divorce ;-)

married, and with a baby. I usually get on when the baby is napping and in the evenings when my hubby spends some quality time with our daughter. I take a little time to do the things I do to make money and to get on here and see what's happening.My hubby supports my writing and just wants me happy. At first he told me it was similar to myspace and there for it was dumb. He said this because foolish me I allowed someone who slammed a comment I wrote and critized me to the point of tears. I since then realized there will always be someone on here who chooses to slam someone or wont agree with opinions so I've decided to stay and make friends and do what interest me. After my hubby and I had a discussion about this he was fine with my time on here as long as we both get some time to do our own thing every now and then we're fine.

Hubby has a term for things I do that also says 'don't involve me in it, PLEASE' - it's 'cute' and he thinks my Gathering is cute, very cute. 10

My husband has no idea I am on Gather. He's not into stuff like this anyway. Good question, though.

I only gather when my husband is at work

My husband doesn't mind. I do it when the rest of the family is watching tv. If I weren't Gathering, I'd retire to the bedroom with a book, since I really can't get into tv at all. Now, a good question is what would my boss say of my Gathering? That is one thing I hope never to find out.

I'm on gather because my husband passed away and found it by accident and it has helped me in getting stuff off my chest . I think he would approve if he thought I was happy doing it. And I am.

My hubby rolls his eyes, but he can't help but ask how many points I have.

He got jealous after I told him about the Home Depot gift cards!

I resisted getting on Gather for a long time - the husband as on it already and said I'd like it so I got on and now we fight over the big computer and comfortable desk chair! Oh and by the way, I am in the cash side of things and he's still groping for points! Salud.

That is a great question. My husband was just leary about what kind of information I had to give out to join. Didn't seem that impressed about the gift card thing but will be once they come pouring in!

Such a variety of answers!

Sharon: My husband didn't really get impressed and interested in Gather until recently when they came in at a quicker rater than before. So you are probably right about your husband taking notice once they pour in.

Mariana: Fighting over the computer doesn't sound like fun at all. I've offered my husband to join up and earn some of his own but he's not interested. He doesn't really write, and doesn't really do photography either. It's just not for him.

Kathy: Lol! My husband actually is like me. He prefers books to the home depot - at least when it comes to these gift cards.

Arlene: It's the curiosity of the point accumulations, isn't it?

Elsie: I'm sure he would approve as well. This is a wonderful community!

Jennifer: I'd bet your boss would be less approving. Good thing none of u are going to tell them!

Debra: I know that term (or one similar to it) well. At least he just lets you be, right?

James: That's great that you both Gather "toGather" :-) Thanks for the feature!

Jenna: I think that's a healthy outlook on it all.

Layla: Ouch! Who's going to win? Hubby or Gather? :-P

Roxanne: Those cards are quite delightful, aren't they?

Kerry: It's nice to share something fun like this with family.

Liz: I'm so sorry to hear that! Maybe he will be more understanding in time.

Faith: Yes, you might have to share should he like it here.

Shelley: Some don't connect with Gather the way others do. So long as he doesn't mind your being here it's all good, right?

Eileen: Sounds like a perfect and winning situation!

Kathleen: Sounds like you both have your "message boards" that you frequent. :)

Kathy: Let's hope it stays that way!

April: Sounds like a good plan.

Victoria: I don't think Gather is a very bad habit at all.

Audrey: Yes, in some cases perhaps. I'm Gathering when I do other things online to make some spare cash for us. So, I'm using the time more wisely in multitasking. :-)

Flit: I do Neopets sometimes too. Not so much now. Good luck in getting published - it's a tough job to make it!

Howard: Your wife and I share a common television interest I see. :) It's good that you can busy yourself here to avoid it though.

Michelle: I hear you on many books. I have two bookshelves of books each shelf has two rows of books and they are filled! My son has a lot too, but who can stop buying books just because you have a lot already?

Gloria: That sounds like a great plan!

My husband doesn't care. Just as long as I leave him alone when he watche shis tv shows and I have dinner made.

Hubby works a gazillion hours so he isn't here to notice much but when he is here and awake, he generally watches television and I gather on my laptop so we are together and he gets to watch the stuff he likes on TV which I generally refuse to watch.

Mini Pin Momma S -- we could very possibly be married to the same man.

I was finally able to cajole my partner into exploring everything Gather has to offer. He now relishes his times on Gather.com, and can't wait to get back to the keyboard. Hooray!

My husband has no clue. I do it after he goes to bed and if I mention it I have to explain it all over again to him, so I just don't even talk about it.

My husband looks at my page when he's at work, and likes that I'm happy here. ;) He's fairly happy when I'm happy. He also encourages any monetary gains I can make online!

I normally get on here periodically when I have free time in the evenings or during the weekends, I'm never on hours and hours at a time, but rather in spurts. I spend most of my time when I am home caring for my 3 year old and 5 month old, but if they are napping or busy with something, I'll get on. Sometimes if I just want to check in really quick the baby sits on my lap, he likes to try to push buttons on the keyboard and as long as he is with me and I am talking to him he is happy.
My sweetheart works different hours from me, so when we are together we are normally spending time together and not on here. He is on Gather as well though, so we don't mind either of us being here. My parents, and his mother and brother are here as well. Looks like most of the people in our world don't have much room to say anything about it.

Gather is an adult forum for which I am proud to be a member. My wife is also a member so we discuss the comings and goings of friends and family and their comments, articles and images on here. It's a way for us to be connected even when we are apart as we don't get to spend much time together because we both work opposite shifts. I like the fact that when she gets up to go to work in the morning, I get up, post my articles and check back throughtout the day when our boys are napping or as time allows. When I get home around midnight, I like to get on and waste a couple of hours and "unwind" from my hectic night at work. We've decided to sacrifice "our" together time for a few years until the boys are all in school, but we don't want any undo influence on our children lives or their psyche, so we're raising them ourselves.

Like many here, we're already benefitting from our time on Gather in the form of Gift Cards and considering we could each be spending our time at bars getting drunk or having affairs which bust up our family unit, I, for one, support my spouses time on here as she does mine and it's something we can do "together" even when the small sacrifice we're making doesn't allow it to actually be that way.

Most nights while my husband watches TV, I hang out on Gather or work on my blog. Whenever my husband complains, I remind him that before I was able to quit my job and write full time, I wasn't even home. (I worked in the evening.) We haven't had do much togetherness in years.

......I need to get outside more and get a better hobby, or so I'm told, lol. That's about it for me from my wife.
Thanks.

He does not mind... he knows I am not out there searching out porn or talking nasty on the computer which as a couple we have decided against it for both of us... He loves hearing about new cards I am getting in the mail.. as soon as i get enough home depot cards he has to do some manual labor building bunk beds for the kids...

My spouse is supportive. He seems okay with my time spent on the computer with gather members.

I joined because of the FC contest and have become obsessed. My husband has been pretty good, but did complain last night when I came up to get a glass of water and didn't return for fifteen minutes. I was just checking on something I'd written - geez!

He hates it, he said I love gather more than him.

Good question. I wouldn't dream of even asking. We're both adults and tend not to interfere with what the other chooses to do.

Jennifer,

Very good question but I have no one else to worry over the habits I have on the internet.

I did want to say if your husband ever finds out about the Home Depot cards he may find the book cards a little less attractive. He he!

Thanks for the question!

Thanks to you all for your wonderful answers. I've enjoyed reading how all of your significant others feel about Gather. :)

Philip Thanks for your reply. I suppose no one to worry about makes it easier.

You'll be surprised to hear this, but my husband has no interest in th Home Depot cards. He, like me, prefers the books... only we wish it were still for Barnes and Noble rather than Borders. :)

My husband was on Gather first and he spent several months trying to get me to join so I would know what he was talking about and to share things he read on Gather. I finally joined and got hooked on Gather and then got totally carried away trying to get the cash option. So no, he doesn't have any problem with me being on here. He does not have any problem with me taking pictures of anything and everything.

We each have our own computer and our own comfy chair, so we do not have to share.