"My Husband Peed On Me This Morning"

Thanks Audrey. I know, but it's so hard to tell someone that. I guess it's better than her having to wake up wet every morning.

that is so sad...

as long as he's been to a doctor and knows that there are no physical reasons for the urination, the diapers do seem like the best idea.

that was what I was going to add... wouldn't be a bad idea to mention it to a doctor... but certainly in the meantime, adult diapers would seem to be in order.

its so sad, either the diapers or twin beds pulled up next to each other so each of them has their own space

Mona, they are both at the Doctor's right now. I thought it best to find out if there were any physical problems that might cause this.

Thanks Flit, I think it was a good suggestion too.

I appreciate that Liz. I think it is so important for people to retain their dignity, even though it can be hard at times. As my Mom loved to say, getting old is not for the feint hearted."

Thanks Fran, the twin bed's is a good idea.

Thank you so much James. Yes, it is very sad. I just wish I could help them more. They are such sweet people. I hate for them to have to go through this.

This is a sad fact about getting old. I am not there yet, and hope I never will be. There are a lot of reasons for this I guess and perhaps there is a medical solution. I hope so for your friends sake. I too hated when my husband was so ill he was in a nursing home and we were separated for the last year of his life. I would give anything to have that year back and wouldn't care if he peed on me. I know her pain. I think adult diapers are a good solution too.

I really hope there is a medical solution too. I'm so sorry to hear of your husband's death Elsie.

I'll talk to her again, Amelie but I don't know if it will do any good.

It's sad...and a part of growing older.

Yes it is. I wish you could see them together. I've never seen two people more in love than them.

There is nothing inherently shameful about wearing adult diapers. If they solve the problem, why not? As we age our bodies change and our bodily functions weaken. I don't see how using twin beds would solve this man's problem. Yes, it would keep his wife from getting peed on, but he would still wet the bed and that would have to be dealt with every day if he sleeps that deeply that he doesn't wake up to go to the bathroom.
Different things cause incontinence, including medications, so if he is taking any, he should ask his doctor about that. It could be something simple like that, easily solved by using a comparable med that does not cause incontinence. If the problem is more complicated, again, the adult diapers will solve the incontinence issue. If our society didn't make us feel so ashamed about our bodily functions, we would just take this sort of change in stride. It is annoying, for sure, but nothing to be ashamed of.

I don't think it's shameful to wear a diaper. I do think that it is hard for someone to face the fact that they are getting older, and they can't controll their bladder anymore. I feel so sorry for him, but he took it with such grace. Still, it hurt me to see the sadness in his eyes.

It`s a sad thing, that some dignified personalities in their old age have to undergo such situations. Well, it`s a part of life in the end, most of them have such problems. The solution of the "twin bed" plus using adult diapers would comfort in both ways. God bless!

Thank you Anila. I'm going to suggest the twin beds again tomorrow.

Thats just about all he can do. It would save on having to wash the sheets all the time to.

I've heard some medication advertised that may help the situation depending, so seeing a doctor seems like a logical step.

I wash the sheets everyday anyway, but I think it will save her alot of grief and anxiety if he were to wear the diapers.

I hope that she and he are able to come around to the idea that there's nothing shameful about getting older, and no loss of dignity in dealing with those changes. There would, perhaps, be a loss of dignity in denying reality . . . but to accept what's happening and take it in stride -- well, there's all sorts of human dignity in that.

Fairly recently I observed a family having dinner with an elderly woman at a restaurant. When they got up to leave, I saw that she was literally bent double -- she used a walker, and couldn't straighten up. She moved very slowly, and as she passed my table, I caught her eye, which was sparkling with merriment and vitality. I grinned at her, and she grinned back, as she made her very slow and compromised way past me. That woman had more dignity than most people my age, despite her physical condition. It's all, I think, a question of how you look at it.

Rushmore, they have gone to the Doctor today, and I am hoping that he will prescribe something that will help.

I agree with you David. Getting older is just a fact of life. It's not easy for some people to accept though.

I just fell in love with that woman in the restaurant. I absolutely love people who never lose their joy in life or their sense of humor. I hope I'm like that when I get old.

I really don't want to make light of this at all and honestly I feel horrible about it. But when I read the title I had to laugh because I know of a friend who had a boyfriend who after a long night of drinking woke up in the night and stood by the bed and did just that thinking he was in the bathroom. So when I read the title I had recollections of that story. The reality of this is sad. My Mom died at a very young age of 59 after a long illness. My Dad was responsible for her every care even personal care issues. It's amazing to watch true love in action.

That's wonderful that you're Dad took such good care of you're Mom. It's awesome to see people stick to their marriage vows like that, "In sickness and in health, til death do us part."

Don't ever apoligize for having a sense of humor. I would have lost my mind long ago, if not for being able to laugh at things most people would find apalling. People in the Nursing profession usually have a pretty morbid sense of humor, those that don't usually don't last very long.

The adult diapers at night, imho, would not take away his dignity. They would just help the situation and the couple would not have to be separated in sleep after so many years of marriage. I am in awe of couples who have been together for so many years....

Roxanne, it is so sweet to see them together. They are so much in love after being married for 62 years. They hold hands and kiss all the time. I love it.

there is nothing to feel bad about .
i have to wear diapers at night cause at times i pee the bed and when we go on long trips i have to wear disposable diapers cause i can't seem to hold it for long.
cloth diapers are best at night&vinyl pants

It's adorable that she didn't want to sleep in separate beds, even after the incident. A lot of older couples start sleeping in separate beds becuz of sleeping differences, and i love it how she doesn't want to give it up. That's awesome.

Did they ever find out if it is a medical reason?"