In my opinion if you disagree with someone then you have every right to express your opinion.
However I believe you should do so in a respectful mature way.
Because if you come off like a jerk people will not even listen to what you have to say.
You will get your point across a lot more effectively if you say what you have to say in a nice manner.
When you say insulting things and call people names it does nothing but make you look bad.
It defiantly does not make your point come off better.
In actuality being insulting to others makes me think you have no real argument at all.
If you have to resort to name calling and childish acts like that .
A lot of people insult others because they think degrading someone makes them look more knowledgeable.
When nothing could be further from the truth .
So there is nothing wrong with disagreeing with someone.
However if you want your opinion to be respected .
You might want to show a little respect to others.
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Take a look at it as a scene in a theatre; a man says he believes that God is green and lives in a tree. The woman says he is wrong. The man gets heated and says he has been offended because the little book he read a while back said so and, besides, there are thousands of people all over the village who believe it and they cannot be wrong, can they. She says he's wrong and stupid and she can prove it. He says she's nothing but a troublemaker and takes a swing at her, she defends herself and takes a swipe at him, knocking him to the ground. Trouble with a capital T. Neither side has dealt with it in a calm way.
If the man had simply said a 'truth,' which he is convinced he believes, then that would have been enough. At her rejection of that, he could have walked away...but he didn't. He chose to provoke the woman and ultimately take a swing at her. Wrong tactics for getting your point across!
But if they calmly exchanged their points of view, then they might have seen some sort of wisdom in one another's point of view, then again, they might not. One person cannot always bully the other person into seeing or believing in what they see or believe. That's being human. We are all different. NO MATTER WHAT 'GROUP' OR 'TRIBE' OR 'CLUB' WE BELONG TO, WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT!
I have a phrase-There is no such thing as THE TRUTH, only the perception of truth. You might wake up today convinced that you are going to repaint the front door. Tomorrow, you might see that as something different, you got interrupted by a man on a bike who had an accident and you took him to the hospital. That's a bit simplistic but your attitude may change from day to day, but you're OK. It's still the you that you grew up with, you haven't grown horns or become an alien!
I think it is worth thinking out the reasons why we get offended; is it because we carry 'baggage' from the past, are we rising to the challenge of the words of another, is this all worth reducing yourself to the stance of a caveman, or can you think it out before defending something which isn't worth the energy, JUST WORDS?!?
If someone calls you names, they are offending themselves by stooping that low. Reply with silence.
Remember, my friend, a difference of opinion is just that.
Thanks for posting this, John. I am featuring it my ranting group.