Normal or Not?

Thats because they are upset. not all people like breaking up.

I think hurt causes a lot of people to be strange for a while. Then again, some people just feel they don't have to be on their best behavior if you break up with them, so they can be more themselves.

I have seen that happen quite alot in the younger generation, brooklynn. Well
perhaps it happens with older people too.

Hi Brooklynn,

I've seen some people completely flip out over break ups while others remain relatively calm or at least have some control over their emotions. I think it's due to how you actually break up with them. If you keep you cool, and simply explain that it's not working out by being honest and calmly answering their questions and by dealing with the breakup as an adult, the other person will more than likely respect you for being honest with them later even when they're upset about it now and will not flip out as much. If however, you try to break up with someone by using juvenile tactics (I'm not saying that you did) such as completely ignoring them, or by creating argumentative situations over the little things, then they tend to get really upset - name calling also falls under this category. So be honest about how you feel, and if they become really really vindictive, then you might need to seek legal help (i.e. a restraining order).

My daughter is breaking up with her girlfriend for about the fifth time. She says this time it's for real. I'll believe that when I see it. My daughter is a recovering alcoholic, so no drinking is allowed here. The girlfriend understands this. Last night, however, she showed up totally falling down drunk and being loud and abusive. In the end my daughter left. This woman went after her, and in the end tried to break into the house.

Apparently the police will do nothing, even when someone is drunk and threatening violence, so they let her into the house. I've not had any sleep all night. We discovered last night that while my daughter and I were out of the house this woman kicked in my daughter's bedroom door and trashed her room. Personally a breakup would be very welcome, but the woman won't leave. I guess we are goig to have to go for a legal eviction the first of the week.

Some people try to make breaking up, even when it's clear the two people are unsuited to one another, a major traumatic experience. I'm a wreck and haven't been out of my room other than to use the bathroom all day. I wish we could just get back to normal around here.

Morrighan? I think the restraining order is a good idea and will suggest it to my daughter.

I mean literally crazy.
Calling and asking to wash my feet and stuff?

Sandra,
This dude looked up all of my posts on Gather and started to see how he could twist them to be about him!

I made sure to approach him and discuss the matter before proceeding with moving out. He seemed to understand and agree with some of the things that i had said, but after a week...look out!

Carolyn G. ,
I hope eveything is okay for your daughter.
In my state, they would have taken that other woman to the poloce station for that

I went out with a cop who I thought was normal and when we broke up -- he started following me when I went out on dates and a few times I came home with a date and he had broken into my apartment watching tv. Try getting the cops to stop one of their own---impossible. I had to move several times - finally out of the state.

That's horrible.
I am glad that you are safe now!

We can never fully know another person!