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Just Be Happy

January 10, 2007 10:17 AM EST

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Someone I truly love and respect had just one request, this past holiday season. The request was for me to "just be happy". When it was said I was a bit defensive, as I think many people would be. I tried explaining that I was happy but everyone or thing around me, made me angry. I could tell in their eyes, they were not believing my story and deep inside I knew it wasn't true either. I really thought about that request for some days. I went from defensive to down right angry and then, I really decided to be happy.

In my journal, I have a list of what gets to me, what upsets me, what I don't like and other telling things about me. In making that list, I've learned that I am fighting to really be me and accept that. I have been trying to be everything to everyone and I am constantly defending or explaining my actions. Why can't I just be happy being me? A couple days before New Years, I decided that I am going to be happy and accept myself. Afterall, I am who I am. It's to exhausting being everything to everyone.

It's been a calm and free personal experience to "just be happy". I don't follow up my answers with an explanation. It's a no or a yes and that's just it. I don't explain why I do things one way verses another. I'm an adult. I am responsible for my actions and words. I don't have to explain them.

I'm not 100% happy each day or about everything. I am noticing a difference in myself and my view on life. This is going to be a long process, however, the end result is worth working for. I plan to be happy and accept myself for who I am.

Tags: concern, i, care, love, myself, heart to heart, change, personal growth

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Comments: 15

Kat Eldred Jan 10, 2007, 10:30am EST

I always find that if I closely examine things that people say [that have upset me] there is cause for that close examination. Something is revealed. I am happy that those people exist, the ones that say things that "bug" us. Cheers to you for taking the time to examine your reaction.

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♯ ♪ Jan 10, 2007, 10:31am EST

I wish others would take this approach; it makes life easier for everyone.

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donna h. Jan 10, 2007, 10:42am EST

I wish you well

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Sue * Jan 10, 2007, 10:52am EST

Good wishes to you on this life journey.

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Joe T. Jan 10, 2007, 11:06am EST

Like Kat said, when something is upsetting or bothering me - I know it's about me and not the other person. One can be happy even in difficult circumstances.

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Martha Jette, Author/Editor Jan 10, 2007, 11:16am EST

I often find that when one is being difficult with me, it is usually they that have the problem. Now I just say, "It is NOT my problem." Works for me.

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Cheryl W. Jan 10, 2007, 11:38am EST

Sometimes the truth is painful. We turn a blind eye to what others tell us, but if enough people are telling us the same thing, there is something to what they are saying much of the time. Sometimes I have had to begrudgingly listen to something about myself, but it led to me making a change for the better.

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Apryl Just Apryl Jan 10, 2007, 1:49pm EST

Just like everything in life it is a process. The hardest part is allowing ourselves to be Happy. We get bogged down being care takers and crowd pleasers. It is sometimes hard to remember that we need to care for ourselves. Writing in your journal is a good start, it is personal time with You! I hope you acheive all your goals and have Happiness beyond your wildest dreams!!

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Patrick T. Jan 10, 2007, 2:21pm EST

Anger comes from within, so does happiness
We are addicted to our emotions yet these emotions are just chemical compounds that our brain makes upon our request. Just request your brain to make positive compounds.
Watch the movie
'What the bleep do we know"
It will show you the science behind what I say.

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Marian L Jan 10, 2007, 6:01pm EST

Good luck. That's a very good attitude, but it sure is easier said than done. I've been trying to live like that for years and, although I have made some progress, I still have a long way to go.

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