I need some Christmas/Holiday Cheer

I can share some Empathy with you Elaine, I know of what you speak in this posting! I, too, need some spirit, some enthusiasm, some life breathed back into me this season. I try to count my blessings every day. In my heart I know I am blessed but some days it is hard to pull that info out of myself... Keep your chin up and try to smile, it can help!! My good thoughts are with you.

The whole commercialization of the holiday season gets to me too. It sounds like there's some other stuff going on. I agree with Janet, it might help to talk about the accident. Don't forget, we're with you !

Thanks Janet & Barry. I have talked about what happend with family, and friends but I don't know, my husband said I am reading to much into it. I don;t get why he said that. I have tried praying, I have tried meditating, nothing helps. It is not like my injury is making me bed ridden, there are some things I can and can not do.
It's just I feel like I just want to forget the holidays, don't get me wronf I love Christmas, well usually.

Thanks Fran, I hear you, counting the blessings works but not enough to get me going...and do what I have to do. I have been keeping my chin up, but it's hard at time. :-)

Vicki that is a good idea, I will get an "Angel" from the Angel tree, and buy some gifts for them.

I know I have a huge amonut of resentment over what happened at work, how the situation was handled, how I was told to go to a clinic, and the clinic (workman's comp) that the stupid clinic doctor did not know how to tell if my bone was broken, so I then had to go to a ER. The injury happened 8:00am, I spent 4 1/2 hours at the stupic clinic (workman's comp), then 4 1/2 hours at Emergency Room, where I had two sets of x-rays taken and spent 2 hours in the actualy ER waiting for the results. I stayed home from work, using my sick time as I was not out long enough for workman's comp. My hand hurts, my fingers go numb, and hurt. My bosses did not call to check how I was the whole time I was out, when I came back they could have cared less, even though it was their fault I was hurt. I fell in the same spot 1 month eariler over the same thing! Right now I have so much resentment I feel like I am going to go crazy. My husband thinks I am over reacting. AARRGGHHH!

We just put our Christmas tree up last night. I have been so sick that I have not been able. Our daughters and their families will be here late next week and their rooms are not ready. Presnts not wrapped but I dont care. I know that the important thing is to be together and share our love not the gifts or the decoration. We raised our daughters to know this also

Oh Connie, I hope you feel better soon.

I know what you mean about presents, and just to be together and share the love, not the gifts or decorations.

I just love the decorating, shopping, and other stuff so much, this year I do not seem to care.

I'm sorry your feeling so badly and maybe we can help you. Elaine, what happened to you at Thanksgiving? How did you get hurt and how has that affected your day to day activities?

Also, maybe it's time to delegate some of the preparation for the party and enlist friends and family to pitch in and help. How do you and your family handle this party? I guess I should ask if it's a family party or a work-related party. Give us more details and we'll be able to brainstorm more for you.

Connie, sorry to hear that you were sick. I hope that you're feeling much better now.

It sounds like you are just not in the right mood for Christmas, and that makes sense with everything else going on. I am way behind on shopping and decorating and that makes it feel rushed now to get it all done. Do something fun to take your mind off of Christmas and the work issues for a few hours.

I fell over something at work. I landed on my right hand, The Sunday of Thanksgiving weekend.

The rain is affecting how I feel espically yesterday and today. I am wearing a (removable) splint on my right arm and hand from elbow to fingertips. I am right handed. I can type left handed, and eat left handed and well write left handed. I have issues with other things -trying to do those things left handed.

It is a family party, I have delegated a bit of things. But I can't delegate much.

I usually like doing all of this, shopping, decorating and all of the holiday stuff. But this year I could care less. K D. I have been trying to get into the mood...but it's not working.

Robin, I am going to go to the mall by myself, have lunch and shop around a bit. ;-)
How was your vacation??

It sounds like the accident and the attitude of your bosses has really shaken you up.

If you're not 'in the holiday spirit' well then you're not. Maybe you need to be kind to yourself, seeing that the people at work weren't kind to you at all. Do things you like. If you want to just flop and do nothing, then do. And don't beat yourself up over not feeling your usual self. Maybe you could tell your husband it's PTSD or at least ignore him if he tells you you're over reacting.

If you don't feel better in the New Year, it might be worth seeing about getting some sort of support - maybe see your doctor or find out about counselling.

Hope you feel better soon.

ELAine, your should not have to make a party or do anything like that if you don't want to...On the other hand, if you think of the holidays as a time to see and express love to your family and friends, it might give you back the spirit. I love holidays because it gives me an extra chance to see and talk to the people i really care about.......people who CARE ABOUT YOU!
hope it gets better...and i hope changing the focus onto people instead of stuff will help.......

Elaine...try to remember that you are in fact very special to many people and we care about you although we have never met you. It is important that you find the spirit of Christmas in your heart and bring it to life. If you need more gifts..buy gift cards and think of odd shaped boxes you can wrap them in (hint: Kleenex has a fun oval shaped foil box out now that would be fun to wrap and hide a gift card inside...plus the receiver would have something fun too...think about tucking cards in socks, gloves and even inside some undies if you have a fun friend! Buy some gag gifts and be a secret santa to a friend...buy a fun outdoor decoration and put it up while your neighbor is at work and sign a card...from santa...all these things will help you feel better and should give you heart a boost! Good luck and let us know what you do!

Gina, Emma, Laurie, and Susan, thanks so much for your kind comment's and suggestions.

I went to the doctor yesterday, and I have actually begun to feel better about everything, espically the holiday's. While I do have anger at what has happend, and my bosses lack of caring, I will not let it consume me, and I will not let it ruin the holiday's for me.

Susan I love your idea's for gift wrapping gift cards!! And the secret santa stuff ;-)
Laurie you are so right I needed to change the focus to family and friends, thanks for reminding me of that.

Emma thanks, we did, and have scaled back some;-)

Gina, I feel a bit better, and well I sill may flop on the couch, I may see someone after the holiday's the attitude of some people, ahs really made me full of hatred towards them and trying to hide it is not working.