My husband came back from his military deployment a few days ago (hence I have not been on Gather.com). I had not seen him for six and half months, and I was very excited before the home-coming. However, it has been frustrating because we have been fighting since day 2.
Well, technically, if you ask my husband, he would tell you we were not "fighting", because he didn't talk back at me. It was all me. I was so aggravated at him, because I felt like I went back to the old pattern of taking care of his slacks. After we got back to the house, I did his laundry, and he was playing a board game with his coworker. There is still plenty of housework to do (like various cleaning jobs) and he only played video games.
It feels really good to be in his arms again. But even that isn't what I had envisioned. My belly is always in the way, and we aren't as close as I wanted to be. I think he is more attracted to the TV.
This is not the first deployment since we were together, but somehow it seems the most difficult to adjust to. I think maybe I had too high an expectation on him because of the baby, and he was in shock to get used to the change in my body.
I guess I will have to see how it goes next week. Both of us have some work in getting used to each other again.
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As Michelle says, it takes a bit of time and even though he knew about the baby coming, I'm sure it was more a thought that the actuality...now its real