Men.
I have always admired certain traits of men. Not only do they have little to no wait for the public restroom, they can also write their name in the snow! How cool is that? And what about those sounds all little boys can make, like the one under the arms, or popping their cheeks like firecrackers?
And I love the way men dare to look foolish. They seem to have little fear of becoming the "class clown" or even a "jackass" at times. Boys will be boys seems to explain it all.
I have always envied how men are able to heatedly argue with one another and then in the next hour forget all hard feelings. They seldom engage in backhanded compliments or enact petty jealousies. For the most part, what you see is what you get.
Perhaps exasperating at times, is the way some men get to the point right away. Problem solving is their forte and everything else is extraneous. Logic cuts out the middle man of irrelevant details. I believe a man will be more likely to state the truth of the situation regardless of messy feelings. Sort of like ripping off a bandage, quickly.
I admire how men retain that little boy excitement over a first snow, or the latest gadget, or best sci-fi movie. I love to see that twinkle in their eye when they ponder the stars or even the dirt between their toes.
And then there is that lone wolf trait of a lot of men and how they treasure their solitude. You can find them trapsing through the woods or lulling on fishing boats, feeling their stillness.
Men also have this endearing way of becoming totally absorbed in whatever they are doing. They forget all time and place as they hyper focus on the task before them of building or creating. There is something thrilling about seeing that masculine passion put to work.
I also admire how men save their vulnerable moments for when it really counts. When I was a teen I had a male friend who had found some abandoned kittens. I never saw him cry until he tried to nurse those kittens and they began to die one by one. It was pure, untainted sadness.
I envy men their fantasies as well. Men have so many superheroes to choose from. There is something endearing about their courage to wish to be better. And there is strength in a man's vulnerability of knowing that he will never be superman.
Yet...an ordinary man...is quite the hero. I think so anyway...
And now for my question....What do you envy about the opposite sex?
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the way they have little time for gossip they are not interested in mrs. smith's kids always have dirty noses or sally doesn't keep a clean house.
Ah, men......love 'em!
Well, my defensive posture was highly inappropriate. Apparently you're inner beauty is a striking as your outer beauty. (Ok, that's a typical man-thing to say... or maybe not, I don't have a clue anymore... well, that assumes that I did once... it's complicated.)
I'll have to ponder the question of what I envy about women... a lot of things come instantly to mind. Boobs, for one. (Definitely typical, that!) But beyond that, their are many things I love about women... so I have to figure out if what I love about them is also what I envy about them. I think that will come in a follow-up post.
In reference to your point about petty jelousies and back-handed compliments...
For whatever reason, I typically have longer lasting friendships with women than men. That would include co-workers. Despite not being gay, I can only assume that I relate better to women than men on a friendship level, generally speaking. Anyway, being a 'uniter' rather than a 'divider,' I suggested to three of my female co-workers that we all go to lunch one day. I had been to lunch with each of them individually, so I assumed that this was a natural extension of our friendly co-worker situation. Interestingly, it seems that just because I was friends with each of them, that doesn't necessarily translate to their being friends with each other. Apparently, I was quite naive. I'd often gathered 3 or 4 male co-worker friends for lunch, and never had the impression that one couldn't stand to be with the others. I don't know if this was a unique combination... it may have had no gender basis whatsoever... but I truly wondered how I could have misread this situation. Maybe it's a statement about my shortcomings more than anything to due with female-to-female relationships. Live and learn, I s'pose.
I admired their logic, so I figured out how to think logically. I admired their ability to argue and be friends a few hours later, so I worked hard on not taking things personally.
I never was one to gossip, and I think it's stupid anyway.
I get excited over the latest gadgets. They're not just for men. Sci-fi? Never read it until I fellt in love with someone who actually writes sci-fi. Read it and LIKED IT!
You don't have to be a man to enjoy a number of the traits you admire.
i will have to do a follow up post about a book i read which was called, dick for a day....written by women writers about what they would do with the male appendage for a day.
"Eats shoots and leaves..." I know what you're thinking, but that's a description of a panda.
I had about 40 people in Chapters, busting a gut when I walked by a whole pile of copies of that particular book. I picked it up, and remembering the cartoon, flipped through it, and in a surprised oice proclaimed that I honestly thought it was Dick Cheny's bio. ROFLMAO I really had them going, for a while.
I don't shave my legs either!! My DAD asked me when I was going to shave them. I told him the following.
"Dad. you're my FATHER!! I think it's sick, and even pervertred that you would look close enough at my legs to see that they have not been shaved. The hair is not nearly as dark and nowhere near as long as the hair on your legs, arms, chest, back, the only place you're actually losing hair is on your damn HEAD! So don't be buggin' me about shaving my legs until you start shaving yours."
D-O-H!
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I'm astounded by your observations and appreciations! I believe that I will speak with authority, to say that it is women like you [and there aren't many!] that make being a man a pure joy.
Sadly a lot of Canadians I know think Americans are all a bunh of nutcases. *I* am the one who reminds them that American citizens are fine, just your politics are screwed up.
But as for the question regarding what I envy about the opposite sex . . . two words: multiple orgasms.
That said.... I'm SO glad I was born a woman :)
what i envy about women;
-when you're upset you're allowed to cry and people comfort you, you don't get told to stop etc etc
-you don't have to try and read signs from the opposite sex while single then ask them out
-if you're warm caring and sensative, this is expected and perhaps normal, no-one accuses you of being up to something
i've said it before and i'll say it again, being a man these days is getting tougher and tougher because we have so much which is expected of us, so much of it contradictory. I do wish life was easier for us but it isn't. Take this from a genuine, sensative and caring guy who has been trodden on many times - that part of my life is over now thank god but i had nowhere to go at the worst times because, when you're a guy, no-one want to hear an emotional man, it's so often percieved as weakness.....or complaining.
-they get paid more for doing the same job
-they look sexier with age
-they pass gas in front of people, and then laugh about it
-they don't have to wear shirts
-they look good without accessorizing
-they don't have to experience the pain of childbirth
…Write their names in the snow (with a stick)
…Dare to look foolish
…Engage in debate without becoming emotional
…Be direct
…Solve problems
…Be logical
…Get excited over the "little things" in life
…Be content to be alone
…Become absorbed in their activities
…Be tough
…Be vulnerable when appropriate
…Have fantasies
…Wish to be better
…Be ordinary heroes