Every parenting book, Every homeschooling advice column, everywhere I look I see experts in home management telling their readers what to do.
Put down the broom and teach the kids.
Don't worry about dusting, spend quality time with the children.
These are the most important times in your children's lives, the dishes can wait.
Nobody cares if you dust, the little ones need nurturing.
Love the babies, leave the laundry.
All the time, people advocating being a great parent instead of keeping an immaculate house.
But social services? Nah.
* They want every speck of laundry off of the floor, even if there are plenty of clean clothes available.
* They want the kids' rooms to be perfect with no toys lying around, even if they were just playing with them a second ago.
* They want you to hover over your children at all times and not even let them play in their rooms alone (there are dangerous things in there, like wall plugs, you see).
* No cobwebs, no dust, no mess on the counter in the kitchen (even if you are cooking or just got back from grocery shopping), no clutter on the desks or tables, no nothing. Heavens forbid you are in the middle of a craft project in the living room floor when one of these people drops in.
The government wants you to be a little automaton. No life, only children and home. No life for the children, only cleaning, school and home. Not only do I have to f'n Marry Poppins, Now I have to constantly live in house beautiful too.
So what have we learned?
Nothing is ever good enough, nobody will never be fast enough, organized enough, smart enough, perfect enough, that some governmental harpie won't find something to call you a horrible parent for.
You will never be good enough.
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Anyway, it is a good thing the above article isn't quite factual, at least in our case, because let me tell you. Monday when she came to inspect, my house was not spotless. I warned her when she came in that we got the big chunks up but this is our busy season. We have band, cheerleading, volleyball, work full time, etc. I felt lucky that I didn't lose all my kids that day!
I don't have a lot of faith in the system anymore. Not after talking with the people who are active in the foster parenting program. The kids interest seems to be rarely taken in account. One mother was given her child back to her after a month. She had left this child at the side of the road to fend for himself, for goodness sakes. 18 months old!! Ok, I need to stop. i can go on forever.....
and the children who really need the system to work for them are the ones that fall through the cracks... I have also seen kids taken away forever and parents rights stripped on false acquisations... I have seen it all first hand to tell you the system is totally messed up.. and yes this story is true.... like i said there are different social workers for kids being checked on in the foster home and ones that have cps come out on allegations...
I bet if I went into providing foster care, I'd be treated more kindly, however, because I am the birth mother of these children, I am somehow a criminal.
I know I'm a great parent, because other parents constantly ask me for advice and assistance in raising their own kids. That says something by itself, but it doesn't stop the state.
I will have to agree with you completly however, that faith in the system is overrated, and in nearly every case, unwarranted if not downright dangerous. I just have different reasons for my belief. *smile*
There isn't much WORSE than to have your parenting called into question. It's a horrid feeling even when you know you haven't done anything.
Honestly, it makes me want to leave the country.
Our gov't can't educate our children properly, and it thinks that it can tell us how to parent?
I put a great deal of energy into parenting my kids, they are more important to me than my own life. No one can tell THAT by looking at a few unwashed dishes in the sink.
At the time we were reported, I was working full time, and going to school to be, of all things a social worker. You could not pay me to do that after my experience. I'd almost rather sell my soul. Basically when I was doing all this stuff, I'd have much rather come home and play with my kids than to worry about dishes.
It's just one more step into the grave, we will some day lose complete control of our children's lives.
In regard to what you first said Trish. Try to seek alternative medical care for your kids, and see what happens?
We're in the times of Big Brother. Tread carefully
Trish, Nicole has a good point here. I am studying to be a naturopathic doctor, and I rarely take my children to an allopath for anything. We don't get called on for medical neglect because it "seems" that the children are never sick. It might be a good option for you as well, and it'll allow you to be more involved in keeping unnecessary toxins out of your children as well. *smile*