Foreign Women Who Consider Marrying American Men

Sadly enough David, I would almost bet that the pictures you received have been sent time and time again with different names attached...there is an "air" of professional model about the women shown in your article and the skeptic in me suspects that the women writing looked much different than the pictures sent. Still, I am with you in the sense, that I wonder what becomes of women so desperate to "escape" one world that they look for sanctuary in another place so different from what they have grown used to......

I agree with Susan. The pictures do look a lot like a model's "head shot." One doubts that these people find happiness on the internet, both the woman looking to escape and the man who thinks he is "helping a damsel in distress."

I know there are a lot of scams going on out there. Pretty girls wanting to meet men... gullible men who are willing to send them money for the plane ticket and other expenses. Most of them disappear after the money changes hands. Or if they show up, they actually marry and stay with the men until their American citizenship can be finalized.

This comes from a "foreign woman" who married her American penpal. Miracles do happen, people meet thru letters (before emails and the Internet!) get married and people do live-happily-ever-after, in their own way.

My Story In A Few Words

I work in a law office that has one immigration attorney. We've had two Russian "mail order brides" as clients.

One was a rather plain-looking, but earnest and kind, nuclear physicist who married an overweight, arrogant real-estate broker. She brought her lovely daughter over here too, surely hoping for a better life for them. Unfortunately, what happened was that he beat the two of them and spent time in jail and now they are divorcing. All this happened within the span of a year. Her immigration paperwork has not been finalized yet and I wonder if they will end up getting deported back to Russia.

The second one has just completed the marriage but seems equally unsuited to her mate so I don't predict a better outcome. Hopefully, he won't be abusive though.

I've spent a lot of time in Eastern Europe as my college minor was Russian Language. I did see a number of extraordinarily beautiful women there but none struck me as the type who would dedicate every waking moment to pleasing some big fat loser. In fact, I have always admired their frankness, intelligence and strength of character.

This scam is ruining the reputation of many fine women and causing heart-break and monetary loss to many lonely men.

Lots of good comments here. I knew someone in San Francisco who was pursuing a Russian woman/bride (as if there aren't millions of single women in San Francisco, really!). Of course, it did not turn out well. It always makes me wonder, with all the great single women available in the US, why someone needs to look abroad? I think it is the notion that somehow these women will be more docile. I totally understand the attraction of someone from another culture, but personally I need a face-to-face relationship with someone to build any kind of trust. I often wonder how men getting into relationships with women overseas, sight-unseen, can suspend that trust? Is it all about trying to fulfill fantasies?

All I can say is, there is something so wrong with this world! (sigh....)

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from Elena M. hide details 1:42 am (7 hours ago)
to ______@gmail.com
date Nov 18, 2006 1:42 AM
subject Elena, still waiting for your reply

Hello!
I am Elena and i am here to know you better and start a relations with
you. I can say about myself that I am easy-going and curious
May be it is normal to my age but I feel myself crazy sometimes I want
to see and to know so much I am kind, attentive, open minded and
passion. I know what I want from this life and I feel that I am ready
for the serious relationships; I am searching for the right person - for
my husband and father for our children.
I have some questions for you if you want to get to know me closer:
1/ Are you interested in serious relations with Russian woman?
2/ Are you planning to visit Russia?
3/ Would you like to correspond or to talk by phone?
4/ Why are you interested in Russian lady?
5/ Have you ever been to Russia?
6/ What is important for you in relations and am I right for you?
I will be waiting for your reply to

admin@1BRIDE4UONLINE.INFO

And what about you?


christianson sane

...YET ANOTHER update:

from Rove Weak hide details 3:06 am (14 hours ago)
to david.ballromney@gmail.com
date Mar 19, 2007 3:06 AM
subject My name is Alena.

How are you? My name is Alena. I from Russia, city Cheboksary. To me 28 years. I shall tell to you about myself a little.

I corresponded with the man from the your country before. His name Mark. He is from your country. We had a long correspondence and Mark wanted, that I have arrived to him in the your country that I have seen what life there. We have together submitted the statement on reception of the visa in your country! Mark spoke, that will help my in our meeting. I thought, that have met on the Internet the love.

I and Mark made the big plans for the future, but in a flash all has changed. From the moment of submission of the statement for the application of the visa has passed 5 months. For these five months there was for what I least waited. Mark informed, that his former wife has returned to him and lives together with him. Soon they should get married. And now in Mark plans there is no me. I wrote to him some times after that, but Mark have wished me only good luck in the further searches worthy men and have told, that our ways miss. And in October to me there has come the invitation in embassy behind reception of the visa.

In the beginning I wanted to throw out the invitation in embassy. To me it was sad, because my dreams were failed, I have nobody to fly in the your country. But my uncle have dissuaded me from resolute actions and have told, that else there is a chance to find worthy the man and to use the visa to a meeting with him. I well know English and practically I have visa your country. My uncle speaks, that it really solves many problems.

Approximately in 7 days the visa will be ready, and I should go to Moscow behind reception of the visa. I write to you because in my heart there is an empty seat. I do not search rich or poor. I search careful and responsible man which wants to enjoy a life together. Is this person you? I think, that I ask not much. I have told to you a little about my life. I have told not all about myself, but it will be easier to me to write about myself if you will ask questions which interest you. I have told to you my history, and now I shall look forward to hearing from you with impatience. Write to me! I shall send you more photo in the following letter. I wait you answer. Alena.

P.S. I shall answer with pleasure if you write to me on: VAlenaV@yandex.ru

This morning I found this in my SPAM folder: (the link didn't work)


let's be friends, dear
Marinka Fri, Nov 2, 2007 at 8:11 AM
To: "david.ballester@___.com"
I greet you

While you are thinking of me and about this letter I want you to ask
yourself: how often were you surprised to understand that you are so
willing to get a chance to meet me at least for a while? Maybe you are
trying to imagine our meeting in person, how wonderful we are spending the
time, how you just start to be happy because we are together?
And if you are indeed thinking of all this, wouldn't it be logical to start
a communication and then meet in person in real life? To spend time
acquainting and realize that we are meant to be together?
Are you as brave as I am to write me your answer and to make the only step
to become happy?
You can send your best wishes to http://rudateshop.info/?idAff=101
and I will be happy to answer.


Waiting for your answer
Marishka

And then there are the American women who marry foreign men and go to live in their husbands' countries like I did...