Pain used on my son a Motivator for him to remember homework, he has LD"S and is on medications for them as well as special ed... what do you think?

This is being reposted a and with additions, I need advice, this has gone up to the Super's office and it looks like they are not going to stop doing this to kids here. Not without a court fight. I need parents and Teachers, with advice.

---origional post from last week--------

I find myself enraged; it's not often that I get this truly angry. My son was barely able to walk the last 2 days, because he did too many exorcises (150 squats) in PE, but that's not why I am angry.  Why I am angry is he was forced to do those exercises because he forgot his homework for his computer class, and he had to do the same exercises last week (only fewer 50 Squats) because he didn't get a good grade on a piece of homework for that same computer class.  Then he was told next time there is a problem it would double (300 squats?). Thus, the school; at least between the computer teacher and the PE teacher are deciding on physical punishments as (in their minds) a way to educate children.  So when the kids have to do this they are subjected to the pain of the exercises and the public ridicule of the other students.

          This all came out when my son came to me and said," Dad, I would rather be home schooled then go to Jr. High school." I wasn't looking at him when I asked him why, and then I looked up to see him struggling to keep from crying and he said because there are so many kids who don't like him. So I asked him, "Have they (the kids who don't like him) been doing or saying anything to him at school?" and he replied with tear streaming, "they call me retarded, and even one of my good friends is now repeating it and other things". I asked him, if these were kids that knew he was going to special Ed last year? And he said some of them… Then I asked him about the teacher in PE and all the details came out. 

          So not only have other children been noticing and abusing my son for getting extra help, but the situation is being compounded by a set of teachers that think physical punishment is the way to teach computers.

          Needless to say I am going to the school Monday morning, and the situation will be solved.  First I will assume I am among friends and keep as cool as I can. If that doesn't work I will escalate including informing them of legal Consequences and others such as I will write this up and publish it for the newspapers and on the web including names of the school and the teachers and Principal and their e-mail address's… I have already researched the legal steps for taking kids out of school and home schooling (I am not ready to do this as I am presently working days, but I will change jobs or what ever I have to do if this becomes the best option).  Luckily the Home Schooling laws are in the favor of the parents and are not subject to change, it has gone all the way to the Supreme Court here in Texas.

          The part of all this that upsets me the most comes from my own experience in school, with special ed and my over all self view was so negative that by the age of 23 I was depressed & suicidal ideations were present.  I was able to get assistance etc, but most of the problem was from the idea I had even since being a little kid that I wasn't good enough.  That I couldn't do it on my own, that I needed meds or special help or something else to be good enough to be acceptable.  Allowing a child to feel that way is just wrong, not that my parents or the schools back then did it on purpose, they didn't, but the lack of understanding on there part led step by step to a lack of self understanding and acceptance on my part.  I will not allow this problem to continue, he disserves better then I got, I disserved better then I got. My experience, negative as it was, has given me this knowledge and I will use it, to help my son know who he is.

I have always taught him the creator doesn't make trash. I will strengthen this teaching with the added concept that while we are all equal legally, we are each unique given different gifts and different challenges for us to learn what we each need to learn. Most of all I will make sure that my wife and I make sure he knows is OK with us, that we love him.  We have done this, and yet I know we must do more thus I am giving up plans for a job advancement because it would mean I have to keep working days, and I will begin looking for a job at night, carrier doesn't mean a thing if my kids don't have what they need.

I feel our responsibility is greater then anyone's for the raising of our children, and that math, language and science are not enough. David O McKay was fond of saying "What-e'er Thou Art, Act Well Thy Part." His speeches and writings also depicted many other deeply-held values, including education. "True education," he taught, "seeks . . . to make man and women not only good mathematicians, proficient linguists, profound scientists, or brilliant literary lights, but also . . . men and women who prize truth, justice, wisdom, benevolence, and self-control as the choicest acquisitions of a successful life." According to him, "Parenthood ... should be held as a sacred obligation. There is something in the depths of the human soul which revolts against neglectful parenthood. God has implanted deep in the souls of parents the truth that they cannot with impunity shirk the responsibility to protect childhood and youth. There seems to be a growing tendency to shift this responsibility from the home to outside influences, such as the school and the church. Important as these outward influences are, they never can take the place of the influence of the mother and the father. Constant training, constant vigilance, companionship, being watchmen of our own children are necessary in order to keep our homes intact."

That was some of the inspiration that guides me as I strive to bring my kids up into the world with joy in there hearts and understanding in the minds. And Finally I must quote David O. McKay again because he said it succinctly, "No Success can Compensate for Failure in the Home".