My son-in-law was raised by his strange, childless Aunt and Uncle rather than by his more dysfunctional motherand deathly ill (now passed) father and now that a few years have passed and two granddaughters have come along, I'm getting worried about my granddaughters' great uncle's actions.
This guy used to constantly check my rather pretty daughter (the one holding the frog in my photos) out from head to toe and not even try to hide his interest. That was when I decided that I didn't like or trust this guy at all.
When my first granddaughter was born, this weird guy used to insist on changing her diaper every hour and slowly bathing her even when she was dry and clean and bath time for baby came around way too often to make any sense at all. How many babies get 3 or more complete, totally naked, in the baby tub, baths a day?
Granddaughter number one is now in preschool and her great uncle Bubba (she calls him pawpaw) still can't keep his hands off of her. He is constantly holding her and rocking her and he prefers that she sleep with him and his wife. When he is holding her and she insists on being put down, he very slowly slides her down the front of his body rather than just put her on the floor like a normal person would. This recently has stopped; well at least I have not seen him do this in awhile. His bathing of her has changed to 2 baths, but they are within 3 hours of each other. This guy even goes over to her preschool and visits her during his lunch hour. The teacher complained about the disruption to her class, so he had to stop going, in turn he sits at his desk at work and watches her on the cameras the school provides. Now these cameras are to check in on the child from time to time, but he spends his entire day at work, watching her. My daughter was worried enough to have the baby's doctor check her out when she was about a year and a half, but he found no indications of molestation, thank God. Another thing that worries me a lot is he works for the Department of Human Services! He knows all the things to do and say to a child to keep them quiet! He has worked for the DHS for 20 something years.
My Granddaughter has recently started "playing" with a certain part of her body more then the usual that a child does when they start to explore things. I have tried talking to her about her "privates" and her reactions to me; she thinks it's a game, when I tuck her in at night she asks me to tell her about her privates again. It makes me wonder if he has already told her things about this letting her little mind believe that it is ok?
My daughter lives in NC; her husband is in the Marines. He is currently deployed, so she moved back here to be with family while he is away. She lived with me and I babysat for her so she could work until now. Thanks to this guy emailing his Nephew daily, while he is over seas, complaining, whining, doing what ever he can do to upset his nephew, his nephew told my daughter to move in with his uncle and his wife to stop all the problems. There is no problem, other then the fact the Uncle does not have my granddaughter there every day like he used to. It was driving him totally nuts that he did not see her every day of the week. He finally got his way, she moved out and in with them this weekend. Now I am really worried that he has her every night while my daughter is at work instead of being with me.
Since I do not like or trust this guy, I realize that my thinking may be clouded but I'd like your feedback (actually kinda need it). Am I being paranoid or is this guy acting like a pedophile?