Pretending

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Stephen McAllister Aug 19, 2006, 7:52am EDT

Very disturbing poem Joyce. A lot of heartfelt emotion here.

Anne G. Aug 19, 2006, 8:38am EDT

Joyce, itis not good for the soul to pretend. Let it out. Give every day over to the Lord. He does a much better job than us. Try it.

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Merry Kay P. Aug 19, 2006, 8:53am EDT

I understand. Maybe not the same thing but the same feelings. I no longer feel depressed about these things, though. That's helpful. Anne is right, you can turn these things over to your higher power, but it's really impossible to share them with other people. It took me a long time to figure that one out. Because now I'm alone inside of me.

I'll add you to my list. I can't fix my body but I can fix my mind and I never share a name with others on my list, just initials.

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julian 'blighted karma' three Aug 19, 2006, 9:40am EDT

Such a heart-touching article, and I think that most readers will see semething of themselves reflected in your own inner suffering; you said it so well. And yet, for the most part, we do carry on, for the sake of those who are a bit less strong, and in that decision, perhaps our little strength increases.
May I say also that I am very moved to see the offers of prayer - prayer does indeed help in so many ways, and the very offer to pray always shows a heart of compassion. I wish you all the best.

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Lori McCracken-Ishii Aug 19, 2006, 11:00am EDT

I too, see myself, in your article. I wish I had an answer. I will be honest, I have good days, and I have bad days. but atleast I still have days......keep your chin up girl, stay strong. You can overcome anything, havent you already?

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John L. Aug 19, 2006, 11:40am EDT

Joyce, take the little girl inside you out to play. Go and run in the high grass(or the grass high), go to the beach, build a sandcastle with that little girl, laugh at the antics of a puppy, eat an ice cream cone and let it drip all over your fingers and then lick the last bit off them, find another little girl and skip along the path. Joyce, you are that little girl at heart......enjoy her.

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Vicky P. Aug 19, 2006, 12:10pm EDT

Every day that passes will make it easier to bear, always finding something to smile about helps. Let someone else be the strong one for a while.

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Baylee C. Aug 19, 2006, 12:40pm EDT

After all of the wonderful comments that have been posted, Joyce, all I can say is that I understand! This has touched me deeply, as it felt like you were describing me in my low moments. I hope that it helps you, as well, to know that you are not alone.

Joyce, I have seen your writing, and you have so much to offer... not just to Gather members, but to the world! Remember to offer some of that to yourself as well. Take some time to do something special for you. I know it's easier said than done, but it can be so, very, valuable.

I definitely agree with the other comments, and I have seen your prayers you have posted. Every day, every hour or minute if you must, turn those things over. You don't have to keep all that pain to yourself.

My thoughts and prayers are with you!

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Sonia M. Aug 19, 2006, 1:54pm EDT

Not much I can add that hasn't been said already.....I agree with the others that say you don't need to keep this bottled up. Others around you probably don't so why should you. Do bring that little girl out to play and remember the carefree days.......even if just for a little while

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Carol Roach Aug 19, 2006, 3:05pm EDT

pretending is never good unless you are anactress on stage. You need to be who you really are and perhaps people will know better how to help you if you show the true you.

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Martha Jette, Author/Editor Aug 19, 2006, 3:38pm EDT

Joyce, I felt just like you for so many years. I looked professional on the outside, but inside I was a scared little girl. Through some very hard knocks and over many years, I somehow learned to love and respect myself enough to just be me. It's tough, I know.

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Sandra L. Aug 19, 2006, 4:05pm EDT

Wow Joyce, you've stated your feelings and the feelings of others so well. It is sad that so many can identify (myself included) and yet it is wonderful that so many can be with you and support you. Sounds to me like you are a fantastic person to try and hide your pain so that others may be protected from it. Just know that we don't always have to bear the burden alone. Reaching out is the first step to attaining. Perhaps that is the lesson you are trying to learn now - to reach out for help instead of always helping. By being the strong one all the time, you are denying somebody else the chance to help you.

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♯ ♪ Aug 19, 2006, 4:27pm EDT

Your article is really sad and heavy with emotion. It reminds me of times when I felt that low. Those are the days when just breathing is exhausting. Realize that everyone is capable of being strong, and of having to be taken care of... that's not a sign of weakness. If you are truly feeling this way, I hope you have the support of family, friends or someone. You can't be alone! And yes, TIME will help... It might be a long time in coming, but it will ease the pain.

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Lisa B. Aug 19, 2006, 8:17pm EDT

Joyce,
It sounds like we have allot in common. I have many health problems which make me stay home almost constantly. I moved to marry my husband and I do not have one friend where I live and my family and friends are all from my home state. I get very lonely and it can be so hard at times. Now my daughter is a teen and she is not so interested in being with her Mom. My daughter and I were attached at the hip and now I feel so empty.

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