by Cat Givens
Member since:
November 16, 2005

Oh Husband

August 07, 2006 08:19 AM EDT
views: 45 | rating: 9.9/10 (7 votes) | comments: 18
I long to be held
Husband
pay attention to me
I know you love me
there is never a doubt

Yet you are a busy man
I love you
you are my heart's desire
I'd hold you if you'd let me

I know you are busy
Bringing your plate of food
I smile to you
Proclaiming my love
A peck on the cheek
from you and
I grin as you devour
gratefully your dinner

Will you be up late?
Yes, you are busy.
I'll wake you at 4:30
Goodnight, Hon I love you.

I wake you, and it takes a few
minutes
I'd linger if you weren't so busy
So I bring your coffee
and smile
sighing as I return to bed
I'd been hoping to chat with you
at least
but you must ready yourself for
this week away
and conversation will
slow you down

I respect you are busy and
I love you
Tears fill my eyes
I am starving
for your affection
I know you are busy
there is no blame
merely a plea
Husband
Please
pay attention to me
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Comments: 18

Wendy Hanawalt Aug 7, 2006, 8:35am EDT
Sigh. This is SO sad, and SO real.
Nancy S. Aug 7, 2006, 8:48am EDT
There has been a country song or two along these lines...
If this is true, and I suspect it is, I suggest the two of you have a serious talk. Many marriages fall apart because of far less.
Well written, emotional piece. Thanks for sharing it.
Cat Givens Aug 7, 2006, 8:58am EDT
yes it's true.
but doesn't sorrow make such lovely art?
Nancy, thank you. We have had this talk in the past, and I shall steal him away and remind him again. He does not crave nor need the affection of a touch, it is merely his way. He knows I have friends and we hug a lot and that is rather a surrogate he is glad I have. He is so focused, he just is not thinking about our love when our marriage is stable and his work is pressing.
We've been together since 1984, and we will stay together until death, I presume.
I'll continue to remind him I need a bit of affection and will hug my friends.
Cat Givens Aug 7, 2006, 9:17am EDT
Wow,
your kindness and tenderness bring grateful tears.
You are right, of course, and I will simply hand my husband this poem when he gets back in town.
I will wait for him. We are OK.
It is funny, Amy, you mention touch as my language, for it is truth and it is not the only langage we speak differently! It is special to (and quite amusing) learn and know so much love lies behind our differing ways. WE are happy and stable, and it is now and then we remind one another (and ourselves) when it's not obvious.
Thanks.
Also, I must say our friends are extremely touchy feely (in a wonderful, respectful way) that I get my touches and give them as well every day.
Cheryl W. Aug 7, 2006, 9:36am EDT
So sad and so real. Wonderful poem.......
Carol Roach Aug 7, 2006, 12:25pm EDT
gosh you need attention too, your are catering so much to his needs that you are not meeting your own.
Nancy S. Aug 7, 2006, 9:36pm EDT
I am in a marriage with a man who is very different from me, so I understand your feeling that it is okay. Sometimes what works for one couple does not work for another. But what the others say is also true. Do not ignore your needs because of his. There is a way to compromise and satisfy both of your needs. You do not want to stay with him, but be old and bitter. You want to stay with him, and be old and satisfied. That is not impossible.
Perhaps you need to find that way. Counseling can be a good thing.
Clare Stella Aug 8, 2006, 2:21pm EDT
This poem of longing reminds me that men and women really are from different planets.
Linda Douglas Aug 8, 2006, 6:29pm EDT
Very sad. I just don't know how couples can live that way. It isn't a relationship.
Jessica G. Aug 9, 2006, 2:58pm EDT
He may be busy, but family (you) should come first... right?
Alice C. Aug 10, 2006, 4:05pm EDT
Cat, Your words express such a tangible lonliness. I too must give reminders at times but it is sooooo worth it when you see the lightbulb illuminate above his head...Smiles to light your way...
Cat Givens Aug 10, 2006, 4:44pm EDT
Smiles to all of you. Husband will be back in towne this weekend, and I'm trying to get him to go one or two places with me. If not, I'll try to have him all to myself on Sunday.
He He.
Cowgirlheart A. Aug 15, 2006, 11:39pm EDT
so sad, so real, and unfortunately so typcial of marriage
Sandy (Site Psychic™) Knauer Aug 15, 2006, 11:44pm EDT
awwww.. this IS sad. Nicely done, Cat.
Mary C Legg Sep 8, 2006, 10:12pm EDT
unfortunately it sounds so normal-- people take things for granted and get wrapped into their oiwn cocoons withut seeing the needs of the partner or realizing that the love needs reciprocation

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