To All Husbands

To all husbands,

I have a secret for you.  As much as society tries to dictate that women need to be strong and sure and independent, your wife needs you.

She needs you to be strong.

She may pretend like she wants you to back down, but she really wants you to stand your ground.  It makes her feel safe to know that you are sure of who you are.

She is under a lot of pressure to be superwoman, but deep down she wants to know its okay that she isn't.  And she needs that reassurance from you.

Your wife really does want to be more sexual, but she's tired.  A woman's emotions have everything to do with how sexual she feels.  Its difficult for a woman to change gears so quickly.  She cannot go from changing a dirty diaper to having hot sex without some transition time.  Help her out a bit.  Give her a footrub.  Bring dinner home.  Give the kids a bath and tell her to put her feet up and rest for awhile.  I guarantee that you will be rewarded.

Tell her she's smart and pretty.  Remember what drew you to her to begin with and compliment her on these things.

If she needs some time alone or time with friends, don't get upset with her.  She needs this time to rejuvenate.

And last, but not least....stop grabbing her like she is a piece of meat.  Grabs and constant fondling are not a turn-on.  It actually irritates the life out of her.  It makes her feel like a possession rather than your love.  Learn to romance her again. 

Treat her like you would treat her if you had just met her.

Love her.  Really love her.  And she will respect you and want to do anything to make you happy.