Catch Ya Later, Dude

As a child, I was often told that I was much like my father. So I watched the way you walked, talked and interacted with others. You were a leader of men and I've often heard references of "Mr. King" which I always admired. I wanted to be very much like you.

You were an athlete, a baseball player and a boxer, and I had several opportunities to observe you on the field and in the ring. You also coached both sports, as well as basketball in the community leagues. One thing for certain, you always wanted to win.

I was very proud and respectful of my father. You used to work several jobs and even though I may not see you every day, Mr. King was always in the neighborhood. Often you would hear about certain weekend activities that should have remained confidential among my peers, but you would know enough about it that I couldn't deny being present. Still I never liked to admit to any wrong doing. I figured why confess, you already knew enough.

I know you were disappointed in me for ending up in prison as a teenager. I'm sorry! You wanted the best for our family, your wife of 50 years, the children, grandchildren and great grandchildren. We still had some unfinished business between us because I needed to show you that I could get out of prison and be a solid contributor to our family and community. I wanted to make you proud of me, to observe me function in society without the drugs, violence and crime in my life.

I regret that you have moved on in this journey without viewing the true value of this son, Butch, who continues to hear of the similarities between father and son.

I regret that you never fully appreciated the beauty and richness of this wonderful family and the significant role you played in the creation and development of kings and queens.

I regret that you prevented my mother, my brothers and sisters, and myself from really loving you and learning from you even more. Our loss is shared by many, as well as the rewards of the precious experiences with you.

I will always hold you in high esteem, as you were of special character, a mentor and a very important influence in my life. Thanks for being my father.

Catch ya later, dude!

November 11, 2000